It begins with boundaries.
Perfected Boundaries NowKindle edition on Amazon · no therapy talk, no woo-woo
The PA Dutch Way of Living & Loving
The way I was raised. Grandparents and parents both made it to 50+ years of marriage. It comes down to three things. Not a program I invented. A way of living and loving.
Agreements you keep with yourself — one clear line each about what is yours to carry and what isn’t.
Authenticity. Concordance. Equity. Sovereignty. Hold all four and you’re holding a winning hand.
Be free. Be happy. Not someday, after everything is fixed — current day, stopping to reflect and appreciate at the end of each day.
The Right Hard Work becomes Joy, Ease, and Passion to get through the tough times.
“Perfected doesn’t mean perfect. It means practiced.”— Tammy Leitzel
Ready when you are. No countdown clock, no “was $97.” It will still be there if you come back tomorrow.
The Booklet
Everyone tells you to return to real. Nobody hands you the tools. These words and ways of living and loving are the tools. Eighteen pages to start, written in plain speak, that you can use on the very first day you read them.
The Twelve
Look inside
The exact process — four steps, in order.
One matched set — Boundary 3, Reciprocity: the broken path, and the real one.
One matched set — Boundary 10, Restoration: rest is maintenance, not a reward.
Three of the eighteen pages — the rest are yours the minute you are.
About Tammy
I was raised in Pennsylvania Dutch country. My grandparents’ marriage lasted more than fifty years. So did my parents’.
The word on the spine of my grandmother’s Bible was CONCORDANCE — and it was also the life she lived, all day, every day. What I teach is the way of living and loving that I grew up inside. It was plain speak, honest work, planning for tough times, and warmth that is created when everyone plays a part in how the Universe intended it to be.
This isn’t therapy. It isn’t even what I’d call coaching. It’s honest feedback from lived experience — the kind you’d get when you have nothing left but the ground you are standing on… and someone wants to take that from you too.
The Posts
Short pieces on the twelve boundaries, living & loving, and life as I grew up in it.
The “get real” movement hands you the instruction without the proper order and few tools. Here’s the first boundary that keeps honesty honest (yeah, I said that). ;)
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